It's one of every woman's worst nightmares. Yesterday I was listening to the morning key note speakers. I got up to refill my coffee before the second one started and that's when I realized something may be seriously wrong. I grabbed my purse and headed to the restroom. "Please, please, please," I prayed, "Let me be wrong." But I wasn't. Boy was I ever right. The last time I was in this predicament was in 8th grade and it was the result of pure laziness on my part for not taking care of business. I left the restroom and found a friend to bring me my phone from my table. I was in tears as I called my husband.
So why am I sharing this humiliating story with you? For two reasons, actually:
1. I am not alone. As we get older and often after having children our cycles get worse. Mine have been getting gradually worse each month. Yesterday I was on day 3 of my cycle and from past experience, I should have been fine, but as you can see, I wasn't. It used to be the only solution for such a problem was (a) live with it, or (b) get a hysterectomy. For me, oral contraceptives have never affected this aspect of my cycle At this point I'm ready for option (b) but that is major surgery and I would like to avoid it if possible. Today there is a third option called Endometrial Ablation. This outpatient procedure takes 90 seconds to remove the lining of the uterus. As a result, 95% of women either do not have anymore periods or very light periods. I have spoken with my doctor about this procedure and I have to have some testing to see if I am a good candidate. If I am, I'll be scheduling the procedure very soon. This procedure is not for women who still want children. Although it is not intended for sterilization, that is the end result. If you are suffering from heavy periods and do not plan on having more children, you may want to consider speaking with your doctor about this option.
2. Why I love my husband. If what happened to me is a woman's worst nightmare, what my husband did is a man's worst nightmare. Like most men my husband understands to some extent women issues, however he chooses to live in blissful ignorance. He was sitting at the hairdressers waiting for a haircut when he got my call. Through tears I explained to him my situation and told him I needed a change of clothes. He rescheduled his hair appointment, went home and picked up a new pair of jeans and underwear. If that wasn't bad enough, I thought I better have more reinforcement in the protection department. Like most women, I have quite the array of feminine products so when he opened my vanity he was at a loss. What did I want? I'm surprised he didn't pass out! But he grabbed a variety of items and headed to my conference. Then he waited for me to change so he could take my other items back home. In the bag he brought he had also put a note. It simply said "Smile" with a heart and his name. It is so easy to complain about our husbands. Mine is not the most romantic one out there. I can tell many stories of things he has done that irritate me. I don't get showered in roses every time I sneeze. When it counts, when the chips are down, he is there for me, doing things no man ever wants to do and giving me the pick me up that I need. That note he gave me means more than any rose or diamond necklace I could ever receive.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Utter Humiliation
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You must have felt so awful. What a nightmare. I, too, m dealing with cycle problems and trying to make a decision as to which route to go to deal with them.
Oh know!!! I can certainly sympathize. You know, I was on the birth control pill off and on (mostly on) for the last 10 years. But then we decided three was enough, and my husband had the big "V" last summer. I am considering asking my midwife to put me back ON the pill. I now have THE WORST cramps, and my periods last WAY TOO LONG. It is just awful. I have never heard of that procedure, but I may have to look into it . . .
I found your blog through Life With My Special Ks.
I had that procedure you are thinking about in July and my cycles have been longer since having it done. Granted, they are less painful, but longer.
If you do get it done: it takes longer than 90 seconds. MUCH LONGER. Take your MP3 player to listen to unless you are really good friends with your ob/gyn.
Your husband sounds like a wonderful caring man. You are very lucky to have someone so special in your life.
OH NO!! been there, it happened to me on a blind date. UGH! i called my friend from the bathroom. she lived 2 minutes away but it seemed like FOREVER for her to get to me. i changed into IDENTICAL jeans and returned to the table, wondering if i would find my date still there. as i approached the table i saw it...a HUGE spot on the seat. then we made eye contact and he said, "i grew up with 5 sisters, one is on the way to help you." i didn't know whether to die of humiliation or kiss him for being so awesome. i told him my friend had alredy come and saved the day, he said great and called his sister. then he said, "well let's finish our meal and then go find a chocolatey dessert somewhere else." he was a good guy...i introduced him to my friend and they were married a yr later. i didn't think i could ever get past that first date...too embarrassing.
That is the sweetest thing I have ever heard. The part about your hubby putting the note in there! What a genuinely great guy!!!
As for your embarrassing experience. It's ironic that you should post about this. My cycle/period/what not has been so crazy especially after the birth of my 2nd baby!
I had one of these embarrassing experiences just this past week! I was humiliated! I was at a girls night out at Cheesecake Factory 45 miles from home and meeting some blogging friends for the first time! EM.BARR.A.SSING!!! I about died!
Luckily, my blogging friends are awesome and didn't pass judgement, but it was embarrassing even so!
That is awesome of your husband to do. One time my hubby went to the supermarket very late at night to pick me up pads because I was at home with Jonathan and couldn't get out without packing up a very young baby and heading out. He said there he was standing in line with a magazine, a package of pads and a soda and the cashier (a man) just grinned at him.
I told him the next time he should get pads, a pint of chocolate ice cream and a Cosmopolitan and just grin back.
Hi Boondocks,
LOL that is so funny. My hubby had to do one of those runs for me after my first daughter was born. I was not prepared for what was to come!
Oh my, Debbie. I went through a spell where I could only keep appointments when I had mapped where the public washrooms were en-route. But as has been shown by the lovely comments posted here it is far more common than we think. And there are some truly lovely men out there who show that the opposite sex can deal with women "stuff" when it comes up.My doctor gave me some medication for a while which got things on track again. I am now way too old to have to bother ...though at 50 I think there might be some other joys lurking that I have yet to experience.
Thank you so much for being brave enough to share.
What a nightmare! Your husband sounds like a true saint!
That is so very sweet! You know I can totally relate! I certainly think it is the little things like that that really mean the most!
And since Preston was born, mine have become lik clockwork and are much heavier and longer. 2 weeks sometimes! Yuck!
Ugh the last time that happened to me was in junior high... SO humiliating! Kudos to the hubby for coming to your rescue! I can just imagine my hubby going, "You want WHAT?!" ROFL
Hi
For a new blogger, this is certainly a strong start. The challenge, however, is to continue blogging, especially when you don't feel like it.
Now, I'm a man and let me tell you that women much too often underestimate their hubbies. I certainly like what your hubby did, and I am sure many others would do the same if they were only called to the task. Fetching things for their wifes and kids is what males do best, you only have to ask!
As for the "female" troubles you've had, yes, they are very common. Something is seriously wrong with your endocrine glands, but if you talk to your gyno only, he'll only consider what he knows best, and in this case, those would be the ovaries. The root of your problems is in the pituitary gland, treat that first, and the rest will fall in place, given time and the continuation of proper treatment. It is the pituitary body that commands your ovaries and the thyroid, not vice versa.
I haven't read all of your blog, but I'm sure you have been considering alternative medicine treatments for your child. Why not consider the same for your gynecological health!? At least, do not fall for the hysterectomy hoax, endometrial ablation is very efficient in many cases (you can see a lot of information about it on my blog). Do try to think out of the box when your health is in danger!
Wishing you and your family all the best
Sincerely, Dusko
www.how-to-avoid-hysterectomy.com
I can so sympathize! Until I had my historectomy in 1986 I NEVER knew when I was going to start or how easy or bad it was going to be. Aren't we blessed to have husbands who just deal and help us through whatever mess we are stuck in.
The addition of the note was a stroke of romantic genius. Give him MAD PROPS (as one of my girls says)for being such a great guy.
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