Comments on Three Weddings: Reality Check

Debbie, This is my first visit to your site and ...

2009-07-23T10:17:40.382-05:00

Debbie,

This is my first visit to your site and I love the concept.

All your daughters are adorable. Regarding Peanut,it sounds like you are doing exactly what you need to do...you're loving and nurturing her. By doing this, you will give her the strength of character to deal with the challenges of life, whatever they be.

It's hard to not think of the future. But whateve...

2009-07-13T18:34:44.212-05:00

It's hard to not think of the future. But whatever she does, I bet she will be great at it!

We have a few individual adults with Downs in our ...

2009-07-12T15:41:42.908-05:00

We have a few individual adults with Downs in our community and two of which are well known to be productive assets in our local business community; one working at a local grocer and another at Taco Bell.

They always put a smile on my face to see their determination and desire to achieve.

I can only imagine the difficulties in raising a c...

2009-07-12T14:20:20.162-05:00

I can only imagine the difficulties in raising a child with special needs such as Downs. I can say though, as our Priest shared in his message today -- "If I have only but today..."

His message was that we are to enjoy today and not worry so much about tomorrow or next year (not to be irresponsible by any means) for what if we "Have only but today."

I found it dear to heart and I tapped my husband's shoulder to be sure he was 'really listening.' As this morning he was fretting himself about what he 'didn't' get done yesterday and what he needs to do today, tomorrow, and day on.

Life will continue to change things and we want to be prepared for our futures. But, if we weigh ourselves down with the worries of tomorrow we won't be able to fully love and enjoy today.

Does that help?

I certainly understand the reality check though. Just be sure to grab the happy with the worry...

Great post and thank you for sharing so openly. :-)

@ Datri, I don't disagree with you, however, if yo...

2009-07-10T17:51:21.645-05:00

@ Datri,
I don't disagree with you, however, if you consider how things were 20 years ago and how they are now, think of how much better it should (hopefully) be for our kids when they are adults. Sure there will still be difficulties, and we need to prepare our children now, but I hope they will have even more advantages then than they do now.

It's something that's been on my mind A LOT lately...

2009-07-10T17:10:51.793-05:00

It's something that's been on my mind A LOT lately. And why I so desperately want her to attend this private school. Because the private school also has ADULT programs -- and meaningful employment. I believe it's important to really think about what happens past 21. Geez, if you think getting services for your kid in EI or public school is tough, that's NOTHING compared to when they are 21. A sad reality. I think planning for that is a good thing, even if we don't know how independent our kids will be that far in the future.

This is such a wonderful post!! You write so well!...

2009-07-10T16:02:15.053-05:00

This is such a wonderful post!! You write so well!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and fears.

So far, Carly makes friends no matter where she is...

2009-07-10T09:41:34.202-05:00

So far, Carly makes friends no matter where she is. Kids love her. They all want to be around her. Help her, when she needs it...or let's them! I only pray this will continue throughout her life. I would love if Carly could be independent as and adult. However, I selfishly admit, I want her to live with me forever. I want to protect her from negativity that I know she will face from others someday. But then, I want her to be able to enjoy "her" life as she so chooses. For now, I will cherish every moment of her childhood. I don't look to far into the future either. I only look days and weeks ahead.

Beautiful post.... Having a mother like you your ...

2009-07-10T06:39:17.737-05:00

Beautiful post....

Having a mother like you your daughter will make it through each step...whatever they may be!

Have a great weekend....

I was afraid of the age Rylie is now, school age, ...

2009-07-10T05:25:25.990-05:00

I was afraid of the age Rylie is now, school age, making friends etc. So far everything is going so well and I wish I never wasted so time worrying. So this is what I try to remind myself when I start thinking about the adult years.
It's hard though.